Sunday, December 28, 2008

What is a good man???

Lately , a lot of guys have been asking me "what is your definition of a good man?", so I'm gonna break it down for everyone lol. This is my definition of the perfect man (which of course doesn't exist)........but we all know thats where compromise comes in :-).....

Confident, Sexy, handsome, Smart, Clever, Strong, Sensual, Driven, HONEST, loyal, caring, selfless, TRUSTWORTHY, loving, good listener, outgoing, open-minded, spontaneous, thoughtful understanding...

I need a man who is not selfish....men these days are becoming selfish. They only care about what they're getting and what you can do for them..wtf?? to be honest, I think thats a female trait...to always want something and to always want someone to do something for you. What happened to chivalry?? oh, its dead??? OBVIOUSLY. Men aren't men anymore. I'm not even talking about conventional standards, because I don't really believe in anything that's conventional.

Bait and Switch.....

The (not so) great bait and switch ( in regards to relationships) tactic is the worst. Men will SAY and DO everything they can to get you, and once they've got u then they show their true colors. Women use the tactic also, but since I am a woman, I'm going to talk about how MEN use this to play their little games. First off, all men reach a certain age where in their mind they should be starting to settle down (if they're the settling down type), so if you're like 30 and still playing (mind)games, there is a problem. Anyway, back to the matter at hand. Men, just be yourselves PLEASE !!! You are setting us (females) up for disappointment and yourselves also. There are a lot of females who will settle after they find out that the man isn't all that he claimed to be and try to find ways around it , but there are other women who will not put up with the bullshit. If you know you're not the romantic, candlelit dinners, surprise gifts, and cuddling type and you know that it's not something that u don't mind doing to make your woman happy, then don't do it period !! Don't constantly do it at the start of the relationship, just to stop . Don't act like you care about things when you know you don't. Don't make promises that you're not gonna own up to. Don't play yourself !!! If you know you're only making $15,000 a year, don't front like you're making $40,000 a year by spoiling us and buying all these expensive things for the first month and then be cheap as hell for the rest of the relationship. If you don't make a lot of money or you don't really believe in spending a lot of money on women, then improvise !! Women like men who are creative, it's not always about money and expensive things. We can appreciate a thoughtful man, but PLEASE believe if u get us into the habit of being spoiled then that is exactly what we are going to expect !!

In conclusion, I just have to say this....men have a habit of getting us and then not doing what it takes to keep us. I can't speak for all other women, but I can speak for myself. If you think its hard getting me, then please believe that its gonna be twice as hard to keep me around.

why do i bother?????

i don't even know why i bother with some things. I tell myself not to, I mean I should know better by now, but I always find myself in the same situation. It's annoying and upsetting and at the end of the day, i can only blame myself. I definitely feel like i've been cursed, in so many ways.....smh....