What is a good man???

Lately , a lot of guys have been asking me "what is your definition of a good man?", so I'm gonna break it down for everyone lol. This is my definition of the perfect man (which of course doesn't exist)........but we all know thats where compromise comes in :-).....

Confident, Sexy, handsome, Smart, Clever, Strong, Sensual, Driven, HONEST, loyal, caring, selfless, TRUSTWORTHY, loving, good listener, outgoing, open-minded, spontaneous, thoughtful understanding...

I need a man who is not selfish....men these days are becoming selfish. They only care about what they're getting and what you can do for them..wtf?? to be honest, I think thats a female trait...to always want something and to always want someone to do something for you. What happened to chivalry?? oh, its dead??? OBVIOUSLY. Men aren't men anymore. I'm not even talking about conventional standards, because I don't really believe in anything that's conventional.

Bait and Switch.....

The (not so) great bait and switch ( in regards to relationships) tactic is the worst. Men will SAY and DO everything they can to get you, and once they've got u then they show their true colors. Women use the tactic also, but since I am a woman, I'm going to talk about how MEN use this to play their little games. First off, all men reach a certain age where in their mind they should be starting to settle down (if they're the settling down type), so if you're like 30 and still playing (mind)games, there is a problem. Anyway, back to the matter at hand. Men, just be yourselves PLEASE !!! You are setting us (females) up for disappointment and yourselves also. There are a lot of females who will settle after they find out that the man isn't all that he claimed to be and try to find ways around it , but there are other women who will not put up with the bullshit. If you know you're not the romantic, candlelit dinners, surprise gifts, and cuddling type and you know that it's not something that u don't mind doing to make your woman happy, then don't do it period !! Don't constantly do it at the start of the relationship, just to stop . Don't act like you care about things when you know you don't. Don't make promises that you're not gonna own up to. Don't play yourself !!! If you know you're only making $15,000 a year, don't front like you're making $40,000 a year by spoiling us and buying all these expensive things for the first month and then be cheap as hell for the rest of the relationship. If you don't make a lot of money or you don't really believe in spending a lot of money on women, then improvise !! Women like men who are creative, it's not always about money and expensive things. We can appreciate a thoughtful man, but PLEASE believe if u get us into the habit of being spoiled then that is exactly what we are going to expect !!

In conclusion, I just have to say this....men have a habit of getting us and then not doing what it takes to keep us. I can't speak for all other women, but I can speak for myself. If you think its hard getting me, then please believe that its gonna be twice as hard to keep me around.

why do i bother?????

i don't even know why i bother with some things. I tell myself not to, I mean I should know better by now, but I always find myself in the same situation. It's annoying and upsetting and at the end of the day, i can only blame myself. I definitely feel like i've been cursed, in so many ways.....smh....

My rundown of signs (from experience)...

This is my rundown of signs. This is how I interpret each sign , based on personal experiences with atleast 2 ppl from each sign...Don't be offended, every sign interprets another sign in their own way...I'm an Aquarius and I might feel differently towards a Aries person , as opposed to how a Taurus person may feel towards a Aries person ( get it?? got it?? GOOD !).

Capricorn: Capricorns are very dishonest and stubborn. It gets to a point where they don't even know when they're telling the truth or not. They tend to dwell on things that happened in the past and use them as excuses for their current situations. They are very flashy, love to dress up. They are very cocky, sometimes in a very arrogant way. They think everyone finds them attractive.

Aquarius : They are detached from their emotions. They only let certain ppl see their emotional side. They are good listeners. People often judge them because they don't understand them. They are shy, friendly and trustworthy. They like to laugh and have fun. They are GREAT in bed, very experimental and open-minded. They try not to dwell on negative things and don't like to be around negative people. They are very opionionated and like to have their freedom. They can be the best friend you will ever have , but they can also be your worst enemy if you try to cross them.

Pisces: They are very closed-minded. They stress over little things and make them into a big deal. They are money hungry but very driven. They like to look good, they tend to have good taste. They are very materialistic and focus more on the price of a gift rather than the thought behind the gift.

Aries : N/A

Taurus: N/A

Gemini: They can be very nice but also have a bad temper. They tend to be promiscuous. They love to have their cake and eat it too. They think they're smarter than the rest of the world.

Cancer: N/A

Leo: Weird but in a cool way. Smart, opinionated and funny. They like to look good wherever they go. They make very good friends. They love to socialize and be seen. They like to be in control. They are freaks.....of nature lol. They like to be out and on the go.

Virgo: They are very generous. They are outgoing. They fall for the wrong ppl at times. They don't give up easily, very persistent. When they are in relationships, they give their all. They love being in relationships. They are the jealous type but they won't leave without good reason. They are not the Aggressor in their relationships.

Libra: They can be very selfish. They don't like to take responsibility for all of their actions. They love to make friends and be apart of the social environment. They are outgoing and energetic. They like to have sex, sometimes with many different partners. They like to be in relationships, but they also like to have their cake and eat it too. They love attention.

Scorpio: N/A

Sagittarius (ohh boy): I've experienced 2 diff types of sagittarius' so here they go...

#1 : Likes to be free , but wants to have their lover/partner under lock and key. They are confused about what they want and often give off mixed signals without even knowing it. They are good in bed, not selfish at all. They can be very materialistic. They are not very honest or very faithful. They love to be around beautiful women. They are cocky and like to be the center of attention. They feel like they are "God's gift to women". They are emotionally detached and don't like to listen when it comes to other ppl's feelings.They don't keep their promises and often won't remember any promises they've made. They use lies to cover up other lies and they will never admit it.

#2. Loves to go out and meet new people. Very passionate and spontaneous. They know exactly how to make their lover or even friend smile and it makes their day. They love to be in long relationships and make even the smallest gestures feel like the best thing in the world. They can be very possessive and jealous. They love to have more than 1 relationship going on at once. They will convince you that you're wrong even though they're the ones who are in the wrong. They can be very stubborn and difficult. They can be brutally honest if they really want to. They can be very detached from their emotions and move freely from one partner to another.They are very persuasive and seductive. They don't like to be locked down.


For some reason, I am always attracted to sagittarius men more than any other sign. I feel like it a blessing and a curse all together. We are too much alike and sometimes i feel like i'm in a lose-lose situation. I love my aquarius men though, they're so sweet but they can't tame me. Libra men are freaks lol, but they don't offer anything else that I want. Virgo men LOVE and i mean LOVE me and it kinda sucks since I can't return the emotion :-(. There are 2 virgo men who are currently in love with me and I have never even been with them , in a relationship or even sexually, its kinda scary. It kills me that i'm so stubborn, i keep going for the one who is so much of a challenge and idk why. I guess i like the fact that he doesn't drool over me like the others, but it would be nice if he expressed his interest every once in a while cuz when i don't see any interest thats when I start to stray away. It might have been fairly easy to get me, but it's definitely not easy keeping me around....

Aquarian Women ( the best !!!!)

The Aquarius Woman

Aquarius women are in a way even stranger than their male counterpart (if that is possible). You can tell an Aquarius woman, I feel, rather easily just by the way in which they are dressed. Anyway, yes, Aquarius women do not dress according to society’s whims of fashion. They often dress according to how they feel, or even what they happen to find in their wardrobe that day. Bohemian, I suppose would be a good way to describe these Women, a bit offbeat and unusual. But they always look out of this world. And the annoying thing for the rest of us girls is that the Aquarius Woman doesn’t even go out of her way to do so, they just naturally look good. When I think of an Aqua Woman I actually think of a guitar and beads, bare feet and a tent.
They are wonderfully creative and artistic and can normally do more than one thing very well. I have known several Aquarius women and all of them played the guitar, sang and were very good at craft. And they were really good too, not just a little bit (like me). Lest not forget the late and amazing Eva Cassidy who had both guitar and voice and talent. The Aquarius woman has the ability to make it big time if they so choose. Some of them do, and some of them are just content to spend out their day’s living the boho lifestyle, being wonderful in other ways.
I often feel quite sorry for this woman also. Not because they are needy and not able to cope with the big bad world, no, quite the opposite in-fact. They are highly capable people and demand a great deal of independence in every-way possible. They do not like being a dependent or to be made to feel they are being looked after. Aquarius women often work best in a relationship taking on the male role. And just like many men, these women will certainly NOT want a joint bank account! They will not always be there when you want them to be. And may also forget to tell you where they are at all. However, if you need them then you’re OK, they will look after you.
They can also be arrogant, and can easily cut you like a knife with their words if they so chose. And if you get in their way or do something that displeases them then you will learn quickly that these women mean business. It’s best to do things her way, as it is quite obviously the best way….in her eyes. Quite a number of these girls will also be heavily into the environment and nature in general. Vegans and vegetarians are often of this sign also.As parents these women will not be conventional. They believe their children should be educated of-course, but not perhaps in the same dull way that most of us have to put up with. The Aquarius woman makes things happen you see. She never sits there moaning how awful the world is, she gets up and does something about it, and you can only look on and respect her for it. I shall describe the fascinating women like typhoons I think. Strong, assertive, able, but with the ability to be destructive and cause a bit of angst to those around her.I like the Aquarius Woman. They certainly make great friends and one thing’s for sure; there will never be a dull moment!These characteristics are based fully on a persons sun sign. Therefore may not be 100% accurate for everyone as there are lots of different aspects of one’s chart to take into consideration.

SMH.......

The 34-year-old male employee was pronounced dead an hour after shoppers breached the doors to the shopping center in Valley Stream, Long Island, about 5 a.m. Friday and knocked him down, police said.
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"He was bum-rushed by 200 people," Jimmy Overby, the man's 43-year-old co-worker, told the New York Daily News. "They took the doors off the hinges. He was trampled and killed in front of me. They took me down too ... I literally had to fight people off my back."
A 28-year-old pregnant woman was also taken in for observation and three other shoppers suffered minor injuries during the incident, police said. The pregnant woman and the unborn baby were reported to be OK, said Sgt. Anthony Repalone, a Nassau County police spokesman.
Wal-Mart Stores Inc. in Bentonville, Ark., closed the store in Valley Stream for several hours after the stampede. It reopened shortly after 1 p.m.
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Wal-Mart representative Dan Fogleman called the incident a "tragic situation" and said the victim came from a temporary agency and was doing maintenance work at the store.
"The safety and security of our customers and associates is our top priority," Fogleman said. "Our thoughts and prayers are with them and their families at this difficult time. At this point, facts are still being assembled and we are working closely with the Nassau County Police as they investigate what occurred."
Police said about 2,000 people had gathered outside the doors before the Wal-Mart opened at the suburban location about 20 miles east of Manhattan. A crowd pushed the man to the ground at 5:03 a.m., three minutes after the store opened, leaving a metal portion of the door crumpled like an accordion.
Nassau County police spokesman Lt. Michael Fleming described the scene as "utter chaos." "This crowd was out of control," he said.
Criminal charges were possible in the case, but Fleming said it would be difficult to identify individual shoppers. Authorities were reviewing surveillance video.
The industry's largest retail group said the incident was rare.
"We are not aware of any other circumstances where a retail employee has died working on the day after Thanksgiving," said Ellen Davis, a spokeswoman for the National Retail Federation.
Shoppers around the country line up early outside stores on the day after Thanksgiving in the annual bargain-hunting ritual known as Black Friday -- which got its name because it has historically been the day when stores break into profitability for the full year.
Many stores open early and close late. The Valley Stream Wal-Mart usually opens at 9 a.m.
Items on sale at the Wal-Mart store included a $798 Samsung 50-inch Plasma HDTV, a Bissel Compact Upright Vacuum for $28, a Samsung 10.2 megapixel digital camera for $69 and DVDs such as "The Incredible Hulk" for $9.
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Time to move on.....

I've realized and accepted that the thing i really wanted to happen, will never happen. I have too many things to worry about it and lately I've been wasting time on the little things. I think we all have times when we let our imaginations get the best of us and lose sight of reality. I've done enough daydreaming and wishful thinking and now it's time to move on and face reality....

My best friend is moving to Maryland in 39 days and it's not gonna be easy. So, for the rest of her time here , we've gotta make it memorable and spend as much as time together as possible. When she leaves, we'll still see each other but it won't be the same. I promised her that I wouldn't abandon her when she left and I plan on keeping that promise. Love u Mel !

Aside from that, I just need to focus on the important things in life. I need to get back on track and try to pick up where I left off. I have a bad habit of getting sidetracked from the things I really want to pursue and I need to get rid of that habit.

I'm looking forward to Thanksgiving because I'm gonna be around the ppl I love and the ppl that love me the most......

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Rejection ....

Why do some people take rejection so badly??? And sometimes its not even
rejection , it could be something as little as a misunderstanding.
Everyone should know by now the person you REALLY wants never really
wants YOU.....and if you do end up with the person you really want then
they must be doing a lot of compromising on their part...
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Undecided???

let's say 2 ppl are dating (whatever that means), in this case it means 2 ppl are doing everything that ppl in relationships do without the official title of a relationship...everything is going great.. they have good times...see each other all the time...one person (female) decides they want to make it official...the other person (male) feels that he doesn't want a relationship right now..that's cool....but here comes the issue...the female decides that she is going to date other ppl or "explore her options" as many would say...the male doesn't take it so well... he feels like the female doesn't need to explore her options, he feels that she already has everything she needs...WRONG....although the female is happy and things are going great....she feels like if he doesn't want to make things official now, then he never will....I mean WHY WOULD HE?? 2 yrs from now the female doesn't still want to be in this situation, she wants to eventually get married and have children....which seems impossible when things are going the way they are.....

The biggest problem of all is that the male acts like he owns the female...i don't see how you can be possessive over something/someone that doesn't belong to you...

If I was in this situation (lol), it wouldn't last long at all, if you're not my bf...then i don't feel obliged to you at all...when you ask me to come over or to go out...the chances of me saying yes are 50/50....as opposed to if I had a bf ( this only applies to me, I'm not saying this is how everyone should feel) the chances would be 75/25 (75 being yes, 25 being no).....that's just the way i feel....If you're not MY man , you can't get mad @ me if i decide i don't want to be with you 24/7.....if I'm with you all day then there's no room for me to date and find what i really want...and i refuse to be 24-25 yrs old with a possessive fuck buddy ( no offense to those who are 24-25 doing the fuck buddy thing), everyone wants different things and that's not what I want...some ppl are meant to be single all their life and that's cool......some people want to be single sometimes and want to be in relationships at other times....

I just feel like when i do get a bf, he should be happy and not mad or feel like i "played " him.... it's gonna happen eventually....

'07-'08

I told myself I wouldn't make the same mistakes in '08 that I made in '07....trust me when i say that I've made too many mistakes in '07...I don't regret any of them but I knew that I would need to grow from them and learn...the worst part is that I became the person that I've always hated...I became my worst enemy....the liar, the cheater, the self-centered person who only cared about herself and nothing/no one else even mattered.....There are situations that caused it, but at the end of the day it's still my fault and I should've never let anything change me.......

Anyway....I started out the new year feelin pretty good...I had pretty much everything I needed...I had my family, my circle of whores (who really turned out to be whores) and I had my boo (hmmm).....

1st Mistake I made in 2007, was that I was too nice, thats just my nature, I've never been a mean person and when I see a friend in need, I'll go out of my way to help them....which turned out to be a mistake, not gonna get into full details but that "friend" is not a friend anymore...I'll leave it at that....

2nd Mistake I made in 2007, was I didn't really follow my intuition and when i did , instead of confronting the issue, I decided to "get revenge", but idk if i can call it revenge b/c the other person never knew (well until now if he's reading), I guess I just did it to prove something to myself, I guess just to have a secret of my own.....

I haven't really made the same mistakes this year.....haven't been too nice..matter of fact i don't think I've been nice at all...but I haven't been mean either...except for a few occasions when it was necessary...my intuition is actually on break this year since I haven't really been with anyone exclusively , I use the term "boo" very loosely...it could be anyone and thats the way I like it....Few guys may think its them, actually few do think its them...but i could be talking about anyone...if i use "babes" thats a whole diff situation, b/c my babes is my bf (ex-bf now)....won't be using that one until the next one comes along...I don't do many relationships....they don't last.. I lose interest easily ( unfortunately) and relationships end just as fast as they start...especially when theres that one person that just won't go away (and i don't want them to go away either).. no matter who i talk to or who i like...that person is always there....and when they come around nobody else matters....I'm pretty sure Melonie is reading this right now and she thinks I'm talking about (M) but i think in this case.....its about (T).....(M) will always be around but its just not what it used to be....especially since I see (T) all the time...they're both good friends that i don't want to lose...at the end of the day if either one of them are happy then I'm pretty much happy...


So far this year has been ok, a lot of ups and downs...a lot of things happened this year that I will never forget...I eliminated all the poison (whores) around me and now I just have my two girls (rose and melonie)....they're family not friends...I've got my boo ( hmm wonder who that may be) and my health is good (for now lol)...something is always happening to me...i think its karma..I know I've done my dirt and I would be wrong if i said I don't expect bad things to happen to me...it's life!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MELONIE !!!!!

Hope you enjoy it !!! See ya later on today =)

Sex, Drugs & Money...................Story Of My Life

I'm young and sexy.......I'm living life to the fullest....People can talk.....I'll give 'em something to talk about....I do what i want and i really don't care about what people say...I'll be a role model when I start having children.....but until then.....i'm gonna party like the superstar I am =)
Sex---> can't live without it......just because you like sex doesn't make you a whore....when you're promiscuous.......then yes, you're a WHORE....lol I'm not gonna say any names....

Drugs---> haven't really done any besides a little mary jane =)......crack kills ( ask Amy Whinehouse)........

Money----> gotta love it baby.....Money will make people do some crazy shit...or should I say NOT having money makes people do some crazy shit...

At the end of the day, I am my own poison....My poison is Me....

lil' wayne said it best.....

"Safe sex is great sex, better wear a latex
'Cause you don't want that late text
That "I think I'm late," text
Eh heh, so wrap it up"

I say HI to everyone, especially the haters...who would I be without them??

Coach.....

Its a Movement....Get with it or get lost...I mean the real Coach....not the little $88 pair of sneakers or $28 keychains.....I'm talking about the $398 bags....the $248 boots...the $198 wallet.....I've got it all baby....my bags alone would probably hurt a lot of chicks feelings....not to mention the shades, ipod holder, and sooo much more....

The Girls.....

I had to dedicate this post to my girls......they're gonna hate me for posting these pics lol...but it is what it is....

Allow me to re-introduce myself..my name is.....

Maleka is the name......Loved by many....Hated by many more....If you think I'm cocky...its because I am { yeah i said it}.....I only care about 3 things....myself, my family, my chicas...I love my life and the people in it....I take sideway pix cuz i luv it when ppl are willin to break their necks just to take a peek..............OwWwWwWwWwWwWW

Manufactured in Haiti, distributed in Jamaica, Queens.....I'm the cream of the crop....it gets NO BETTER....

I love my chicks Rose and Melonie....we run shyt...